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[should i get back with my ex]My ex won’t get back together with me unless I ditch my pal I cheated on him with

  DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex says he still has feelings for me but won’t get back together with me while I’m still friends with someone I cheated with.

  I am a 25-year-old gay man and my ex is 29. We were together for three years.

  I cheated on my ex with my friend - and now he wants me to ditch him1I cheated on my ex with my friend – and now he wants me to ditch him

  A little over a year ago, I got really drunk and cheated with a 26-year-old friend.

  It was a stupid mistake but my ex couldn’t forgive me for it and dumped me.

  I have since been suffering with anxiety and depression, mainly because of the break-up.

  I’ve missed him so much and recently we started to have contact again, both via texts and in person.

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  My ex struggles with my friend and feels it will always be an issue. I’m not sure how to resolve this.

  Do I need to cut my friend out of my life and think more of my own future happiness?

  DEIDRE SAYS:?It was wrong to cheat but you have the right to choose who you are friends with, not your partner.

  You should not feel responsible for their liking or disliking of each other.

  People who love and respect you, including partners and friends, should be able to handle their dislike for someone important to you.